Does the Black Church, Keep Black Women Single

Does the Black Church, Keep Black Women Single

black church ladySeveral, many, YouTube videos and hundreds of articles are saying “the Black church is making, and keeping Black women single.” With a 70% female attendance, it is a very, on point, hypothesis.

My aunt tried to introduce me to a young lady. The entire family, her family, my aunt, that is, all went on and on about how good looking she was, and smart.

I was like, “can’t wait to meet her.”

So, one day, I’m at the house working and the girl calls. My aunt runs the phone out to me. So, I talked for all of 2 seconds, and the girl talked for about 15 minutes straight. AND, the entire time, it was about god.

Now, this was my first time ever talking to her, at all. I was a HUGE, MEGAHUGE turn off. And, she didn’t just talk about god. She told me about how she has turned her life to god, and is going on a missionary trip, for god, and on and on and on.

I’m like… OK, go date god, good luck with that.

I didn’t show up to the after church dinner they invited me to. And, never gave her a second thought.

I detest women, or even men, that “talk” about god. If you want to be a Christian, be a Christian. But, it’s not about talking. It’s about doing, being the best human you can be. Being an exemplary human, for the rest to see.

It was so annoying, talking to some girl, preaching. She didn’t have to talk about me, but god damn, talk about your likes and hobbies.

So does the Black church keep Black women single? Hell yes. OH, and if you think that is the only example I have, I have at least 100, personal experiences like that.

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Black Middle Class: Promoting the Black Man in Our Community

Black Middle Class: Promoting the Black Man in Our Community

loving black coupleWith the rise of feminism, a lot of Black women have gotten swept away in the trash. Some Black women recognize that the talking points for the latest feminist movement, do not even apply to Black women. Those have a hard time convincing or making it clear to those that do. What they fail to realize at their base core, is that we are Black first, then divided by economics and then divided by sex. So before even approaching feminism, a Black woman has to wade through racism, and then wade through classicism, to get to the feminist agenda. Those Black women that get it, get it. It doesn’t take much to realize that it is all smoke and mirrors for Black folk. A Black woman in the feminist movement is just another number. There is nothing in the feminist movement for the Black woman, nor is it even beneficial to the Black woman. Except, it does one thing, pits the Black woman against the Black man. And, this is where most Black women wake up suddenly.

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The Catch 22 of Women Working Outside the Home

The Catch 22 of Women Working Outside the Home

sad working Black ladySo my landlord shared with me a bit about herself. She’s divorced. This is the big manager of several properties. She said she just grew apart. Her work became more important than her marriage. She said she is really happy with her work.

The entire time she was talking about her marriage and work, I got a feeling of tremendous sadness. So, regardless of what she was saying, the reality of what was coming off of her, like a giant tidal wave of emotion, was that she was not happy.

I think women today are in a catch 22. They don’t trust that the person they marry will be there, because the news and movies tell them that men will divorce you, although all proof points to women, being the overwhelming  majority of filers for divorce. So they throw themselves into their work, to FALL BACK ON. Then, this becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. You’re afraid of being left alone without money. So you work, so you don’t end up broke. And, the work causes your marriage to fall apart.

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Leave the Black Community Out of the Feminist vs Men’s Rights War

Leave the Black Community Out of it

stokely carmichaelThere is a growing warfare in the white communities of America, Canada and Europe. The sides are the Feminists vs the PUA, MGTOW AND MRA.

The feminists get billions of dollars worldwide annually. They get laws passed like any domestic violence call, a policeman is required to arrest the man, regardless of evidence, regardless if he is the very one that called the police on the wife. They get laws passed like, if a woman merely claims any abuse in the home, in a paternity rights proceeding, the police, child protective services and court is to immediately deny all paternity rights to the man. They get laws passed like, if a woman merely claims abuse, violence or even mere aggression [i.e. strong words] the man can be removed from his own home and forbidden from returning, by law, upon threat of incarceration.

In reaction to this the MRA formed, to remove such laws and give men their constitutional rights. In response to this the MGTOW AND PUA split from that movement, seeing it as useless. The MGTOW and PUA are of the attitude that the system is broken, beyond repair and that the MRA is simply spinning its wheels.

This is purely a white community argument. This is purely a privileged group thumbing their nose at another privileged group. And, in the process they’re throwing people in jail, they’re breaking up homes and they’re rendering kids fatherless, without any fathers in their lives.

The argument that this is about some vengeance against supposed wrong doing by some imaginary patriarchy falls and should fall on deaf ears in the Black community. While white women might think they have some beef with their white husbands, Black women have no such beef with their Black husbands. Black men and women got the right to vote at the very same instant that white women got to vote. Nearly everything that the first and second suffrage movement accomplished for white women, by proxy included the entire Black community.

However, the feminists keep trying to suck in Black women, and by proxy oppose Black men. We don’t need any more enemies. We don’t need our Black wives to start coming out against us. This is not our fight. We don’t have a dog in this fight. Our women weren’t oppressed by us. When the Black man was beaten and hung in trees, we had to rely on the Black women, that white feminists are now trying to embrace so tightly, to keep our kids alive, fed and clothed. When our young Black gentlemen are illegally searched, fabricated with charges, denied due process, denied real legal representation and sentenced to over the maximum allowed by law, we have to rely on our Black ladies to rear our children.

Leave the Black community out of your fight. Stop poisoning our young Black gentlemen against our young Black ladies. Stop poisoning our young Black ladies against our young Black gentlemen. The Black man never kept the Black woman from voting. The Black man didn’t make the Black woman go to the back of the bus. The Black man never raped the Black woman in the slave quarters. The Black woman never beat the Black man to death out of boredom, and got away scott free without so much as a jury trial.

Stop trying to include the Black community in your shenanigans. We don’t want it. You want us to be equal, then we reserve the right to freely decline your advances to get involved in your mess.

African American Manifesto: My Black Agenda for Mellenium 2000

African American Manifesto: My Black Agenda for Millennium 2000

African Slaves[I am touched that you wrote me. I have been planning to start a Black business bureau for some time now. I have not written out the plan, but this seems as good a time as any. This letter will not only go to you, but I am now, because you inspired me, will be sending this out to every Black church, Black politician, Black organization in the entire country. I can dedicate a few thousand to this letter and campaign. I am also an online marketing genius and will be doing a major press release of this letter as well. Thank you for inspiring me. Here’s my response to you.]

When African slaves were sold or stolen from Africa, they were first sent to an island just off the coast of west Africa. On this island, they were mind-wiped and the men were brainwashed against the women. For, 95% of Africans were sent to central and south America. In central and south America Africans could hope to live the ripe old age of 23. However, they actually were treated quite a bit better, since they learned skills. However, because their death rate was so high, they never grew in population.

Well, what about that 5% that was sent to America? Because the US had a constitution that said “all men are created equal”, Americans went overboard to make sure Africans were never seen as humans. They went through TWO different mind-wiping sessions. One off the coast of Louisiana, and a 3rd at the auction blocks. However,they were treated with kid gloves, compared to south America. However, they were kept as dumb as rocks. They learned absolutely nothing and it was forbidden to teach them anything, by law. Americans were deathly afraid they would revolt, which actually happened several time, but was kept to just that city. One town was completely slaughtered by Africans. There is even a famous painting about it, however this is not taught in public education.

When slavery was abolished in the US, Africans had been able to live to a much higher age than in south America and grew to be 30% of the population. However, these Africans had been mind-wiped 3 separate times, stripped of religion, origin, family, and culture. Upon their release they knew nothing, literally nothing.

Africans had to teach themselves how to read and write, make a family, farm for themselves, etc. Two things they could not teach themselves: their religion; their cultural origins. Even with these horrible odds, Africans became 80% literate in 50 years, something unheard of in human history.

While there were Africans that flourished in the new free era, most barely got by. A lot were slaughtered by racist white people who saw African freedmen as an economic threat to their livelihood. Many new laws were passed to keep tools out of the Africans hands; minimum wage laws were passed to keep people from hiring Africans; and anything produced by Africans was not allowed to come to market. Many African farmers went under from not being able to sell their produce.

The answer is not a question of just pouring money into the modern African American community. It requires a COMPLETE overhaul.

  • – branding: African Americans need to be branded as a viable and independent political group with our own identity, culture, religion and origin from Africa
  • – BRANDING: we need to produce new art, media, entertainment that if Pan-African, African centered and African inspired, with Africans as the only people in such media [THIS IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN ALL OTHER POINTS]
  • – we need to denounce any and all other groups that try to co-op our history, culture and art, who systematically claim it as their own and as their origination [like the Egyptian story; jewish story; our music; our culture]
  • – as a political group we need to acquire and send lobbyist to every state legislature and the federal congress, to lobby for African political and economic gains [NOT CIVIL RIGHTS]; we need things like the war on drugs stopped, which was intended and used as a racial profiling thing to send Africans into the prison system, to the tune of 75% of all Africans in prison today are there based on drug charges, to the tune of a $75 BILLION a year price tag; we need to remove all racist legislation; we need to understand, read and hold politicians responsible to the constitution, which is our best and only way to eradicate racist legislation; we need to remove Africans off of all social welfare legislation, this has destroyed the African family
  • black married couple and kids– as an independent political group we need to divorce ourselves from the Democrat party; if we are serious about our independence we need to have the capability to vote as a group; voting for the Democrat party has made the Democrats take our votes and voice for granted
  • – we need to control African finance and African money; we need to open and gather in every city African run, operated and owned credit unions; we need to aggressively educate and finance African business; we need to arrest and stop any 3rd parties that are financing and control African business
  • – we need to control all African disposable income and spending; we need to arrest and stop any 3rd parties that are selling commodities in our communites and to Africans in America
  • – we need to control all African necessary expenditures, this includes food, energy and real property; we need to arrest and stop any 3rd party that controls necessities Africans have to pay for
  • – we need to go into our communities, move back in, fix them up, and open up all forms of business that Africans need and use on a daily, weekly, monthly and yearly basis; we need to target and pick locations that have high concentrations of Africans already in them and do our best to move out 3rd parties; we need to open up convenience stores, credit unions, grocers, transportation and everything else needed, in each community so that Africans do not need to go outside of the community to spend money.
  • – we need to start regional stock markets that trade in African produce, commodities, and equities in African firms; this will get African farmers to produce and transport their produce to African stores as one big giant economic circle
  • – we need to connect these regional stock markets with stock markets in the motherland, which are now booming and coming online; 2 new major stock markets have come online recently in Africa and they need more business
  • – we need to understand that marriage is the most stabilizing social factor in our modern time, and we need to encourage our community to get married at every opportunity; marriage also is very strategic and economically good for both people; we need to launch a national campaign to encourage Africans to marry each other; we need to put African marriage in front of our people, through pictures, art, music, entertainment and as a sound business strategy [since it is more economic to be married]
  • – we need to purchase and take private, all historically Black Colleges; we need to control all African education; we need to arrest and stop 3rd parties from mis-educating our African youth, young adults and young professionals; this is exactly what all other groups do; we need to open and start vocational and skill based education for high school and young African adults; we need to access and encourage our youth to understand what they are good at, what they desire and to realize that college is not the answer for nearly 60% of the population; we need to educate our youth that colleges are a business and that they are putting out propaganda that you “should” go to college, in order to rake in money, at the young African’s expense, which they’ll be paying for, for decades; we need to encourage our young African to develop skills, such as automotive, electrical, plumbing etc, for blue collar paychecks, instead of minimum wage

If we are to survive this next century, we need to take some serious stock of what we are doing. We need to realize that, unless we get organized and think of ourselves as a group, we will be treated as chattel, misused, miseducated, and state dependent victims to a socialist state, with our wealth stolen year after year.

As it stands now, Africans in America cannot do anything to protect, save or help our countries in the motherland. Our people are being raped, murdered and wealth stolen by nearly every western power on the planet, and now Asia is getting in on the taking. We need to clean our house and get it in order.

National Natural Hair Day Tomorrow

National Natural Hair Day Tomorrow

TOMORROW IS NATIONAL NATURAL HAIR DAY. TO PARTICIPATE YOU HAVE TO REMOVE ALL WEAVE / CLIPS / TAILS / PERMS / ADD-ONS / EXTENSIONS / DYES / TOUPEES / HAIRPIECES AND BRAIDS FROM YOUR HAIR. YOU CAN’T EVEN PRESS YOUR HAIR TOMORROW. WASH AND GO.

Natural Hair Day

Take a picture of yourself tomorrow and post the link here. I believe in the natural beauty of women, and I hope you believe in yourself.

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For Blacks: Mo Money in 2011?

My Financial Suggestions for Negros in 2011

Hello brothers and sisters!  Happy new year.  I hope you sat down at your desk and mapped out your year and planned everything you would “like” to do this year.  But, what about what you would like to financially achieve this year?  Very often Black folks, or even Americans in general, do not sit down at the beginning of a year and plan ahead for their finances.  Trust me on this one when I say, when you write it down, just the act alone, seems to help you achieve it.  I am always harping on what Black folks won’t do.  So I like to put my money where my mouth is, and we’ll go through this together and suggest what ought to be done.  Ever hear of a Black leader that does that?  They’re so quick to tell you what shouldn’t be done.  Black preachers climb the pulpit every Sunday and tell you what you can’t do.  Black “leaders”, a.k.a. NAACP wannabes, delight in telling you how you’ve been wronged.  But, not a damn one of them empower us.  Not a damn one of them tell us what we can do.

I don’t think Black people have financial education.  I am no Warren Buffet but I will share with you some financial ideas that I think even the most financially uneducated brother or sister can not only understand, but financially do.

This Year’s Financial Planning for Black People

I am going to tell you some things that might seem counter to what all the financial gurus are talking about.  But, what you don’t know is most of those financial gurus are not talking to you.  They are talking to people who have $150,000 saved in the bank.  Do you know the average social security retiree has a whopping $50,000 saved in their social 401k plan?  There is no way they can retire off of that.  So all these speeches about what you should do with your money does not apply to you.  [and me]  We do not have the basic of the basic already sorted out, have at least $50,000 in savings alone.  So if I say something that doesn’t jive with what your financial hero is telling you, understand that your financial hero makes about $300,000 a year and think everyone has $50,000 saved in the bank ALREADY.

The Easy Way to Save

Before you can save you have to get your spending under control.  If you go to a store more than twice a month, you are out of control.  That is including groceries.  Basically the idea is that most Americans are living waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay above their means.  They are shopping non-stop.  They are paying for things they do not need.

There are far more rich people that lived below their means and saved up, than there are that wandered into a pot of gold.  There are far more rich people that were stingy with their money than those that had riches fall in their lap.  Being wealthy takes planning and commitment.  Don’t be afraid of the word wealthy either.  I consider wealthy to also cover how great your family is, spiritually.  Oh and by the way, these days having one million dollars is not considered rich anymore.

Now, all the financial gurus tell you that saving your money works against you.  The Federal Reserve Bank prints a cool $50 million a day.  That’s right! A Day!  That means the $50 you put in your bank every paycheck by the time you walk out the door, is really only worth about $45.  Just that fast inflation is eating your money.  Now couple that with the fact of capital gains tax, which is %15 off of what you make in a savings account.  Right now across the land it’s a bleak 1% OR LESS.  So if inflation of 5% and an additional 15% don’t get you, your own spending will get you.

So why am I even discussing savings?  Because you have to have a foundation before you can anything with money.  You cannot talk about sound investing if you have no money to invest.  You do know that, at a minimum people are talking about having $20,000 or $30,000, when they are discussing investing.  And, they expect you to have that saved by age 26 or so.  So if you don’t have that, all of that discussion doesn’t even apply to you.

I asked my bank if my account was terrible, two different banks told me that 90% of their account holders did not have enough in their account to buy an expensive meal.

So what can we do to save money? There is a financial term called a DRIP program.  It stands for dividend reinvestment program.  It means that you buy into the direct shares of a company, below the minimum of what a normal investor would have to pay, about $1,000.  Your buy in is then kept by the company and as your little money stays, they pay you an exact portion of what you make off of your “stock”, when they pay out dividends.  However, instead of you getting the money, for your tiny portion, the company reinvests the money to buy you more stocks.  So, for instance, if you were to buy into the Proctor & Gamble DRIP program with $500, come time for them to pay out dividends, they take the $5 you earned and buy you more stock.  So you end up with $505 worth of stock in the company.  Over a long period of time, you might end up with 20,000 shares from just a tiny amount.

My suggestion is for you to apply the same principle to yourself and your savings account.  Most people put all of their money into their checking account so they can pay off bills and such, or buy groceries.  That is fine.  As long as you keep an up-to-date checkbook you will never go into the hole.  Setup your own DRIP program from your checking account, to your savings account.  Unless your bank is in the stone age, you can go online and do this.

Setup a daily or weekly transfer from your checking account to your savings account.  Now the amount is going to be the big question.  Put too little in and reaching $30,000 will take forever.  Put too much in, and unless you are really in control of your spending, you might run the risk of getting in trouble.  In trouble because the savings account is to be treated as if it is untouchable.  Under no circumstances can you take out money from your savings account.  That is the whole point of it being a “savings” account.

Think of it in terms of how much you are personally worth every day.  Let’s say you make $100 a day.  Of that $100 how much goes to direct, unquestionable, expenses, i.e. rent, power, water, gasoline / transportation?  Now remember this is daily.  Let’s say $50 a day covers all your expenses.  Then you might have $20 in questionable expenses, i.e. cell phone bills.  That leaves you with $30 a day to play around with.  Let’s say you put that into your savings account, which gives you 1% interest:

  • $210 a week or $30 a day
  • 1% interest rate
  • compounded monthly

That comes out to be $114,855.00 after 10 years.

Let’s say you only put in $10 a day, at 1% interest into a savings account

  • $70 a week or $10 a day
  • 1% interest rate
  • compounded monthly

That comes out to be $38, 285.00 after 10 years.

You can see right off that aggressively saving is going to get you there faster.  If your goal is to get to $30,000 it would take you 3 years if you only saved $30 a day or $210 a week at 1% interest.  To get to $30,000 in one year at 1% interest rate you would have to save $80 a day.

Now most black folk only think of themselves, by themselves.  Let’s think outside the box right quick.  Imagine that your entire family contributed to the savings account.  You could probably easily save $80 a day, or more.  If you consolidated your families expenses by moving together and sharing the expenses, you could probably cut everyone’s expenses in half.  Yes, I am talking about your grown children moving home, or you moving in with your grown children.  Outside of the U.S. people live with their extended family under the same roof, quite frequently.  And, before you start going down the path thinking I’m talking about some poor 3rd world country, I am talking about Europe, very wealthy countries.  Only Americans consider it their duty to move out and double their expenses, like idiots.  Or worse, get into a house that takes away more than 30% of their salary.  You do know that mortgage lenders do not want to lend you any money if all of your monthly debts exceed 36%.  That includes house note, car note, cell phone bill, power, water, garbage, property taxes, gas bill.  So if you made $100 a day, you better not have more than $36 a day in total bills.  That is $1080 a month in bills.  If you are paying more than that, in total bills, you are living WELLLLL above your means, i.e. you’re broke.

What Can I Do With Thirty-Thousand Dollars in One Year?

So we are going to save this $30,000 this year.  The next question is, what do i do with it?  No we are not going to spend it all.  We are going to go into business for our selves / family.  Of all the business ventures you could go into, real estate is still the safest to get into.  With $30,000 you can leverage yourself into most single family properties, that you are going to rent out to someone.

So the plan is to get into a nice single family home and rent it out for “cash flow”.  First you have to prepare yourself.  Buy every real estate book you can get your hand on.  Keep in mind, no one book is going to have all the answers.  Even text book real estate books, do not have all the answers.

Next, become an expert in accounting. Read everything you can on accounting.  If you do not know about money, you will never keep money.  Understand that accounting is only going to tell you how money is tabulated.  However, it is a basic principle that is unquestionably necessary to learn.  Every Black person in America should know accounting to the advanced level.

Next, comes understanding taxes.  Every Black person in America should learn taxes inside and out.  So many Black people are raped by the federal, state and local government through taxes, it isn’t even funny.  And, I used the word rape literally.  Black folks pay, per capita, the highest taxes of any other racial group and yet have the lowest median household income in the entire nation.*  There has got to be an end to it.  Know your taxes.  Take advantage of tax shelters and tax deductions.  Your children are your biggest way to save yourself from taxes.  While you keep pushing them away and telling them stupid crap like, “man up” and move out the house, you’re killing yourself with taxes.  Idiot!  Stupid is, as stupid does.  Black folks shoot themselves in the foot, face and head all day long and then turn around and wonder why they’re in the state that they’re in.

I suggest you print this article out and sit down at your desk and plan out your year:

  • learn everything about real estate
  • learn everything about accounting
  • learn everything about taxes
  • save $30,000 this year

Now that sounds like a financial new year’s resolution that you can achieve.

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