Does the Black Church, Keep Black Women Single

Does the Black Church, Keep Black Women Single

black church ladySeveral, many, YouTube videos and hundreds of articles are saying “the Black church is making, and keeping Black women single.” With a 70% female attendance, it is a very, on point, hypothesis.

My aunt tried to introduce me to a young lady. The entire family, her family, my aunt, that is, all went on and on about how good looking she was, and smart.

I was like, “can’t wait to meet her.”

So, one day, I’m at the house working and the girl calls. My aunt runs the phone out to me. So, I talked for all of 2 seconds, and the girl talked for about 15 minutes straight. AND, the entire time, it was about god.

Now, this was my first time ever talking to her, at all. I was a HUGE, MEGAHUGE turn off. And, she didn’t just talk about god. She told me about how she has turned her life to god, and is going on a missionary trip, for god, and on and on and on.

I’m like… OK, go date god, good luck with that.

I didn’t show up to the after church dinner they invited me to. And, never gave her a second thought.

I detest women, or even men, that “talk” about god. If you want to be a Christian, be a Christian. But, it’s not about talking. It’s about doing, being the best human you can be. Being an exemplary human, for the rest to see.

It was so annoying, talking to some girl, preaching. She didn’t have to talk about me, but god damn, talk about your likes and hobbies.

So does the Black church keep Black women single? Hell yes. OH, and if you think that is the only example I have, I have at least 100, personal experiences like that.

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Black Middle Class: Promoting the Black Man in Our Community

Black Middle Class: Promoting the Black Man in Our Community

loving black coupleWith the rise of feminism, a lot of Black women have gotten swept away in the trash. Some Black women recognize that the talking points for the latest feminist movement, do not even apply to Black women. Those have a hard time convincing or making it clear to those that do. What they fail to realize at their base core, is that we are Black first, then divided by economics and then divided by sex. So before even approaching feminism, a Black woman has to wade through racism, and then wade through classicism, to get to the feminist agenda. Those Black women that get it, get it. It doesn’t take much to realize that it is all smoke and mirrors for Black folk. A Black woman in the feminist movement is just another number. There is nothing in the feminist movement for the Black woman, nor is it even beneficial to the Black woman. Except, it does one thing, pits the Black woman against the Black man. And, this is where most Black women wake up suddenly.

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The Catch 22 of Women Working Outside the Home

The Catch 22 of Women Working Outside the Home

sad working Black ladySo my landlord shared with me a bit about herself. She’s divorced. This is the big manager of several properties. She said she just grew apart. Her work became more important than her marriage. She said she is really happy with her work.

The entire time she was talking about her marriage and work, I got a feeling of tremendous sadness. So, regardless of what she was saying, the reality of what was coming off of her, like a giant tidal wave of emotion, was that she was not happy.

I think women today are in a catch 22. They don’t trust that the person they marry will be there, because the news and movies tell them that men will divorce you, although all proof points to women, being the overwhelming  majority of filers for divorce. So they throw themselves into their work, to FALL BACK ON. Then, this becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. You’re afraid of being left alone without money. So you work, so you don’t end up broke. And, the work causes your marriage to fall apart.

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Leave the Black Community Out of the Feminist vs Men’s Rights War

Leave the Black Community Out of it

stokely carmichaelThere is a growing warfare in the white communities of America, Canada and Europe. The sides are the Feminists vs the PUA, MGTOW AND MRA.

The feminists get billions of dollars worldwide annually. They get laws passed like any domestic violence call, a policeman is required to arrest the man, regardless of evidence, regardless if he is the very one that called the police on the wife. They get laws passed like, if a woman merely claims any abuse in the home, in a paternity rights proceeding, the police, child protective services and court is to immediately deny all paternity rights to the man. They get laws passed like, if a woman merely claims abuse, violence or even mere aggression [i.e. strong words] the man can be removed from his own home and forbidden from returning, by law, upon threat of incarceration.

In reaction to this the MRA formed, to remove such laws and give men their constitutional rights. In response to this the MGTOW AND PUA split from that movement, seeing it as useless. The MGTOW and PUA are of the attitude that the system is broken, beyond repair and that the MRA is simply spinning its wheels.

This is purely a white community argument. This is purely a privileged group thumbing their nose at another privileged group. And, in the process they’re throwing people in jail, they’re breaking up homes and they’re rendering kids fatherless, without any fathers in their lives.

The argument that this is about some vengeance against supposed wrong doing by some imaginary patriarchy falls and should fall on deaf ears in the Black community. While white women might think they have some beef with their white husbands, Black women have no such beef with their Black husbands. Black men and women got the right to vote at the very same instant that white women got to vote. Nearly everything that the first and second suffrage movement accomplished for white women, by proxy included the entire Black community.

However, the feminists keep trying to suck in Black women, and by proxy oppose Black men. We don’t need any more enemies. We don’t need our Black wives to start coming out against us. This is not our fight. We don’t have a dog in this fight. Our women weren’t oppressed by us. When the Black man was beaten and hung in trees, we had to rely on the Black women, that white feminists are now trying to embrace so tightly, to keep our kids alive, fed and clothed. When our young Black gentlemen are illegally searched, fabricated with charges, denied due process, denied real legal representation and sentenced to over the maximum allowed by law, we have to rely on our Black ladies to rear our children.

Leave the Black community out of your fight. Stop poisoning our young Black gentlemen against our young Black ladies. Stop poisoning our young Black ladies against our young Black gentlemen. The Black man never kept the Black woman from voting. The Black man didn’t make the Black woman go to the back of the bus. The Black man never raped the Black woman in the slave quarters. The Black woman never beat the Black man to death out of boredom, and got away scott free without so much as a jury trial.

Stop trying to include the Black community in your shenanigans. We don’t want it. You want us to be equal, then we reserve the right to freely decline your advances to get involved in your mess.

African American Manifesto: My Black Agenda for Mellenium 2000

African American Manifesto: My Black Agenda for Millennium 2000

African Slaves[I am touched that you wrote me. I have been planning to start a Black business bureau for some time now. I have not written out the plan, but this seems as good a time as any. This letter will not only go to you, but I am now, because you inspired me, will be sending this out to every Black church, Black politician, Black organization in the entire country. I can dedicate a few thousand to this letter and campaign. I am also an online marketing genius and will be doing a major press release of this letter as well. Thank you for inspiring me. Here’s my response to you.]

When African slaves were sold or stolen from Africa, they were first sent to an island just off the coast of west Africa. On this island, they were mind-wiped and the men were brainwashed against the women. For, 95% of Africans were sent to central and south America. In central and south America Africans could hope to live the ripe old age of 23. However, they actually were treated quite a bit better, since they learned skills. However, because their death rate was so high, they never grew in population.

Well, what about that 5% that was sent to America? Because the US had a constitution that said “all men are created equal”, Americans went overboard to make sure Africans were never seen as humans. They went through TWO different mind-wiping sessions. One off the coast of Louisiana, and a 3rd at the auction blocks. However,they were treated with kid gloves, compared to south America. However, they were kept as dumb as rocks. They learned absolutely nothing and it was forbidden to teach them anything, by law. Americans were deathly afraid they would revolt, which actually happened several time, but was kept to just that city. One town was completely slaughtered by Africans. There is even a famous painting about it, however this is not taught in public education.

When slavery was abolished in the US, Africans had been able to live to a much higher age than in south America and grew to be 30% of the population. However, these Africans had been mind-wiped 3 separate times, stripped of religion, origin, family, and culture. Upon their release they knew nothing, literally nothing.

Africans had to teach themselves how to read and write, make a family, farm for themselves, etc. Two things they could not teach themselves: their religion; their cultural origins. Even with these horrible odds, Africans became 80% literate in 50 years, something unheard of in human history.

While there were Africans that flourished in the new free era, most barely got by. A lot were slaughtered by racist white people who saw African freedmen as an economic threat to their livelihood. Many new laws were passed to keep tools out of the Africans hands; minimum wage laws were passed to keep people from hiring Africans; and anything produced by Africans was not allowed to come to market. Many African farmers went under from not being able to sell their produce.

The answer is not a question of just pouring money into the modern African American community. It requires a COMPLETE overhaul.

  • – branding: African Americans need to be branded as a viable and independent political group with our own identity, culture, religion and origin from Africa
  • – BRANDING: we need to produce new art, media, entertainment that if Pan-African, African centered and African inspired, with Africans as the only people in such media [THIS IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN ALL OTHER POINTS]
  • – we need to denounce any and all other groups that try to co-op our history, culture and art, who systematically claim it as their own and as their origination [like the Egyptian story; jewish story; our music; our culture]
  • – as a political group we need to acquire and send lobbyist to every state legislature and the federal congress, to lobby for African political and economic gains [NOT CIVIL RIGHTS]; we need things like the war on drugs stopped, which was intended and used as a racial profiling thing to send Africans into the prison system, to the tune of 75% of all Africans in prison today are there based on drug charges, to the tune of a $75 BILLION a year price tag; we need to remove all racist legislation; we need to understand, read and hold politicians responsible to the constitution, which is our best and only way to eradicate racist legislation; we need to remove Africans off of all social welfare legislation, this has destroyed the African family
  • black married couple and kids– as an independent political group we need to divorce ourselves from the Democrat party; if we are serious about our independence we need to have the capability to vote as a group; voting for the Democrat party has made the Democrats take our votes and voice for granted
  • – we need to control African finance and African money; we need to open and gather in every city African run, operated and owned credit unions; we need to aggressively educate and finance African business; we need to arrest and stop any 3rd parties that are financing and control African business
  • – we need to control all African disposable income and spending; we need to arrest and stop any 3rd parties that are selling commodities in our communites and to Africans in America
  • – we need to control all African necessary expenditures, this includes food, energy and real property; we need to arrest and stop any 3rd party that controls necessities Africans have to pay for
  • – we need to go into our communities, move back in, fix them up, and open up all forms of business that Africans need and use on a daily, weekly, monthly and yearly basis; we need to target and pick locations that have high concentrations of Africans already in them and do our best to move out 3rd parties; we need to open up convenience stores, credit unions, grocers, transportation and everything else needed, in each community so that Africans do not need to go outside of the community to spend money.
  • – we need to start regional stock markets that trade in African produce, commodities, and equities in African firms; this will get African farmers to produce and transport their produce to African stores as one big giant economic circle
  • – we need to connect these regional stock markets with stock markets in the motherland, which are now booming and coming online; 2 new major stock markets have come online recently in Africa and they need more business
  • – we need to understand that marriage is the most stabilizing social factor in our modern time, and we need to encourage our community to get married at every opportunity; marriage also is very strategic and economically good for both people; we need to launch a national campaign to encourage Africans to marry each other; we need to put African marriage in front of our people, through pictures, art, music, entertainment and as a sound business strategy [since it is more economic to be married]
  • – we need to purchase and take private, all historically Black Colleges; we need to control all African education; we need to arrest and stop 3rd parties from mis-educating our African youth, young adults and young professionals; this is exactly what all other groups do; we need to open and start vocational and skill based education for high school and young African adults; we need to access and encourage our youth to understand what they are good at, what they desire and to realize that college is not the answer for nearly 60% of the population; we need to educate our youth that colleges are a business and that they are putting out propaganda that you “should” go to college, in order to rake in money, at the young African’s expense, which they’ll be paying for, for decades; we need to encourage our young African to develop skills, such as automotive, electrical, plumbing etc, for blue collar paychecks, instead of minimum wage

If we are to survive this next century, we need to take some serious stock of what we are doing. We need to realize that, unless we get organized and think of ourselves as a group, we will be treated as chattel, misused, miseducated, and state dependent victims to a socialist state, with our wealth stolen year after year.

As it stands now, Africans in America cannot do anything to protect, save or help our countries in the motherland. Our people are being raped, murdered and wealth stolen by nearly every western power on the planet, and now Asia is getting in on the taking. We need to clean our house and get it in order.

For Blacks: He Wasn’t Man Enough for Me

Black Girl You’re Doing it Wrong

Pay a million dollars for a sick beat, get a catchy hook and then lay down the most F*ed up lyrics talking about how a Black man is a douchebag, and you have a national hit.  You will be sure it will go to the #1 spot in no time.  Is there something to these songs?  Where are these songs coming from?  Are there Black men out there, just breaking Black women’s heart after heart?  Where are these casanovas?  The answer is, there are none.  There is no mass Black man heart-breaking club.  Oh, I’m sure there are some male Black gigolos out there, don’t get me wrong, but there is no lonely-heart club out there for Black men.  So where do these songs come from?

They come from music producers hell-bent on trying to bring the Black man down.  And, you buy it.

But, this article isn’t about retarded folk who make retarded music and the retarded folk that buy it.  This article is about how YOU can assure yourself that you are not going to end up with a scrub.

Lesson One: How Not to Date a Scrub

Yes, this article is directed at women.  Apparently, since I am not a father of a daughter, I always feel the need to be an internet dad to young / or not so young ladies.  All my cousins are married, so I feel the need to protect some other young lady from evil men. HAHAHAHA!!!  Internet dad to the rescue****

So anyway.  Before we get into dating / marrying a good Black man, let’s talk about you first.  A man does not define you.  You should not let a man define you.  You are your own person.  You have your own tastes, likes and dislikes.  You should have your own source of income.  If you go to a club, you should be able to afford the entire night by yourself, i.e. buying your own drinks.  There is nothing more annoying than a woman that comes up to me asking me to buy her a drink.  I’m not a charity fund.  All this talk about being an independent woman goes out the window when you cannot afford your own room and board.

How not to date a scrub.  First of all, if you want to catch a Black man who doesn’t have to worry about can he afford the dollar menu, you need to step up your own game.  Stop going to clubs to pick up the man of your dreams.  Really?  Did ya think that would work?  And, if you just have to go to a club, and you’re hell bent on picking up the man of your dreams, go to a club with a steep cover charge.

Here’s the theory about the club with a cover charge.  The owner gambles that if he charges a cover, it will keep the “riff raff” out of the club.  It makes the club more exclusive.  So if you go to such a club, you hedge your bets that you will not run into “riff raff”. 

The same theory can be applied to landing a good Black man.  If you want to catch a non-riff-raff Black man, then you should go where riff raff do not and cannot go.

Attend Events: Every town / city caters to their upper echelon type of citizens.  You simply then read where these events are held.  Expect to pay money if you’re going to attend these.

Join Clubs: Due paying clubs are everywhere.  You can rest assured that if you go to an even sponsored by a club, that more than likely any Black man there is more than likely not worried around the dollar menu.

Politics: Getting involved in your political party [you’re a libertarian right?] is another great way to meet a non-“riff raff” Black man.  More than likely a Black man that is involved in a political campaign is probably not a street thug.  Now understand that going to a political rally, does not mean you are politically involved.  I am talking about fund raising events or even joining a campaign.  These are the people you want to meet, not the street rally.

Don’t Find a Black Man in Church: 50% of the people in church do not want to be in church.  It’s probably closer to 75%, but I’m wagering conservatively.  That being said, you have an over 50% chance that the guy you run into at church is not going to look out for your best interest or selflessly give of himself, to you.  People find themselves sitting in a church for many strange reasons.  Also, church doesn’t discriminate.  Anyone can walk into a church.  And, the bottom line is, you don’t want to date / marry just anyone.

For those who are saying to themselves that “just because a Black man has money, doesn’t mean he’s a great guy.”  You are delusional.  I am sure there are some great guy, poor, Black men out there.  But, being a great guy, super sexy, and muscular does not pay bills.  So much misery comes from just being poor in America.  And if you do not realize this, you are sticking your head in the sand and pretending otherwise.  At the end of the day, you want a Black man that can provide for himself and for you, if need be.  I personally would have you date / marry someone that can provide for you, not that you absolutely need it, but when you get married and have children, you want to stay home with the kids, for their sake.

A lot of Black folks do not plan their life out.  They don’t sit down and ask themselves what they want out of life and where do they see things going.  At the very least, I would have you plan who you are going to date.  I would have you put yourself in the position to find someone with some get-up-and-go.  I would have you open yourself up to options of a great selection of Black men and not the ones that these fake songs talk about: Scrubs.

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