Playing Hard to Get … Noticed
So many girls are simply not taught by their mothers correctly of what the situation is in the dating scene. Even worse, the father doesn’t even mention dating to his little girl. Sure some fathers go the opposite side of the road and try and scare the bejeezus out of the girl, telling her all sorts of horrific tales of how evil men are, but those aren’t as common as those fathers who simply shut up and never mention anything. In their efforts to keep their little girl from being hurt, battered, bruised or left alone, they end up leaving them to fend for themselves. I mean, we’re here to populate the planet. We cannot do that by burying our heads in the sand and pretending the opposite sex doesn’t exist. So, we end up with a daughter that sits in a bar scared to death of some inevitable horror that will play out in her love life. The end result is that she is miserable and whoever she “dates” is equally miserable. Don’t even get me started on those who got absolutely no heads up by their parents on dating, and thus went to MTV for their advice on how dating should be done. Hello, Tila Tequila. [I followed her on twitter for about a month. I just couldn’t take how vile she is, and unfollowed her like a bad habit. But, you didn’t hear that from me, cuz I ain’t one to gossip.]
|She’s Playing Hard to Get|
Speaking of pathetic, and the entire reason for this article, I see this tragedy play out all the time. Girl sits at the bar, blending in with the upholstery, sighing. Noone talks to her all night, and proceeds to go home and tell her pillow how there are “no good men left in the world.” She has a sense that she shouldn’t be a total skank, so she tries to play “hard to get”. The problem is, she’s not playing hard to get, she’s playing hard to notice.
Let’s be honest for a second. For all the women out there that only attract loser boyfriends, look in the mirror honey, you’re a loser. Like attracts like. With that said, being afraid of attracting some horrible guy is not something that just happens by chance. Sitting at a bar, hoping not to attract the “wrong” guy should not be your focus. You should doll yourself up, lose the weight and be confident that the “right” guy will be attracted to you.
You have no idea how many friend girls I hear complain about how they never meet anyone. I don’t have the heart to tell them, it’s them and not the guys. I have no idea who would be attracted to hair that has never seen conditioner, a roller nor a highlight. I have had grown women tell me there is no need for them to look attractive. Really? [Sigh]
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not here to push the beauty industry down your throat but christ almighty, ashy legs and broken straps are not something people need to see. No, don’t go buy the entire stock of the make-up counter at Neiman Marcus, but don’t look like a homeless bum either.
Some girls and women need to stop being delusional that they are playing hard to get and realize they are playing hard to notice.