Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
|Never Let Them See You Sweat|
You’ve seen it in movies and in any mall with poor people, they tell their sons that “big boys don’t cry.” I would agree that big boys don’t cry, but my definition of a big boy is a 6,000 word vocabulary. Once your kid has a 6,000 word vocabulary, more than likely he will stop crying on his own, because he can express nearly everything he wants, feels and needs in words you can understand and he can express. For proper child development, one needs to not only feel one’s emotions, but have a full outpouring of it. That’s how a boy becomes a man.
It is more than likely, that if your child were to acquire an immense vocabulary, school would become boring and you would never have to worry about him making bad grades, getting into petty arguments with his siblings or generally getting into trouble. His need to express himself with emotions would simply fade as his vocabulary expands. But, how does this apply to adults, since adults, unlike children, do not learn 3,000 new words each year. How does an adult master his emotions?
An adult has to consciously think about his emotions. Don’t let them see you sweat means exactly that, being in control of oneself. The first lesson any martial arts teacher teaches you, isn’t about throwing a punch, it is about taking the emotion out of a fight. Why would you need to not have emotions in a fight? Because emotions are erratic and can, in some cases, get you killed. Mastering yourself means that you are also not erratic in business and, in some cases, getting killed.
Read any stock trading book and the first thing it (should) talks about is taking the emotion out of trading. Once every trade is just receiving input, placing the order, seeing if the data lines up with the expectation, getting out if the expectation isn’t met or getting out once the expectation is met, then you can call yourself a real trader. Emotional trading leads to things like going all-in in a poker game.
But there is more to mastering yourself than just for the sake of being a decent day trader. Mastering your emotions should apply to your every day life, universally. For instance take the government, you so unwittingly trust your life with, who is fleecing you, for the sake of its financial friends. Most people who arrive at the realization do nothing for fear that they might lose “something.” They have fear. All the while, egregious erosions in personal. freedoms are signed away in such decrees as the Patriot Act. Still noone reacts because they are still afraid, meanwhile their neighbors are being carted away into secret underground bunkers and held without so much as a phone call to an attorney. If you master your emotions, you’d know to make that phone call to the right person to get that repealed, along with the rest of the ridiculous mess that pretends to be government “for” the people.
Don’t let them see you sweat means that you can get ahead in both life, and in business. So many women blow of men, because they come across as lacking self assurance. Mastering emotions means that you take out the emotional reaction that society has ingrained into your brain to feel that a pretty woman is something that is unattainable. If you’ve mastered yourself, you understand that a pretty woman is something you would want to date, instead of wanting to shun. She’s attractive, so she can attract guys. That’s why she’s pretty. The same goes for business. So many people readily advise you that you cannot do business without first present this box inside of this box inside of this box. In the meantime, those who are completely smashing the boxes and doing whatever the hell they want are forming fortune 500 companies as we speak. Mastering yourself means that you take the advice from those with limited knowledge, but see it as limited knowledge and not interpolate it as scientific natural laws, the gospel according to Mark Faber. The IRS tax code is 44,000 pages not because the washington insiders just had a spark of writing genius or were overly prolific. It is that large because company XYZ tried to make sure company ABC didn’t benefit from the shenanigans XYZ did to get ahead and made sure it got in the code.
Finally don’t let them see you sweat affords you the opportunity to notice the other guy sweating. Once you have mastered yourself, you can then turn the tables on your competition. Got a person that always makes you feel sheepish in their presence, master your emotions and witness how they are actually putting on airs to hide their own shortcomings. Does your father in-law give you a hard time all the time? Master yourself and realize that he is overcompensating for the regret that is his own life.
How many times have you sat across from your opposition at a meeting and they have made bold statements like:
- we’re your only option
- you have no other choice
- we could go somewhere else
- this is the best deal you’re going to get
Really? Instead of panicking and signing your life away or life savings, give that document a careful read through. More than likely you’ll find out: how they’re screwing you; how many times they’re screwing you; and the 2 cents to call someone that doesn’t care. Master your emotions instead and go shop around and you can come back to that conference table and tell them where to shove their offer.
So many people are put on the wrack at their own job. The company does not want to pay good for good work. Instead of lying down, come time for promotion, see it as a dedicated time for you to look for “options”. If you go look around to other businesses to see what they can offer you, given that you’re already working and earning a salary, more than likely you’ll find a different company that would be willing to pay you adequately. How valuable would that be when you walked into your yearly salary review? Master your emotions and realize a job is simply for money. You owe noone anything for paying you for your services. If they do not pay you an equal or better amount than an offer you got (in writing of course), like a bad trade, walk away from that job and take the best offer.
Most often the rock star companies are rock stars because they pay their employees like rock stars and they produce rock star work. Master your emotions and go get the best possible offer for your skills. Or if you’re the one making the deals, master your emotions and shop for the best deal. Who cares if the son of XYZ corp, it’s just business. So many times people get emotional while doing business and someone else rides on your coat tails hoping your company will inadvertently help them. You are responsible for your own bottom line. Master your emotions and give that contract to that small business owner, because he came in with the best bid.
The country is going to hell in a hand-basket because some wise guys sold a bill of goods to congress and kept themselves nice and fat when they should have been thrown on the street like bums. Congress did not master their emotions and fell for the biggest ponzi-scheme this side of the birth of baby Jesus.