Thou Shalt Not Commit Adultery
It is my opinion that if ministers and priests were to teach this lesson “as intended”, they would lose members due to general discontent. Or, it would be followed by “nobody’s perfect.” That is just, of course, an excuse to excuse yourself from adhering to the word. It is my opinion that a lot of churches are just a song and dance show. That, at the end of the day, church is just a business like any other. People used to go to church out of a genuine fear of God. But, now they go out of habit; to put on airs; to seem as if they have morals. The truth of the matter is that, were this lesson taught properly and enforced on risk of being outed to the community, people would stop going to church altogether.
I am not in your community. You do not have to put on airs in front of me. And, tomorrow I will probably post something about someone being a whore and attach a picture of her breasts. So, I have absolutely no reason to hold back the lesson for fear of any reprisal from my readership. And, if I read my readership correctly, you appreciate my honesty anyway.
Tell the truth and shame the devil. If thou have power to raise him, bring him hither, and I’ll be sworn I have power to shame him hence.
The First Commandment
Before the ten commandments there was one commandment that God issued to man. In Genesis 1:27-28 we read:
God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. God blessed them; and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth, and subdue it; and rule over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the sky and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”
So right after he created us we were to right away start producing more offspring. And, he set it in motion that we humans no longer needed God to create the next human, because he put in us the seeds of humanity so that we could produce more humans on our own. My Jewish friend says the Jews take this to be sacrosanct and obeyed before all else, the first Miztvah of the Torah. A good Jew then, would be married and have children, ad infinitum. This is a blessing, which later becomes a commandment after the great flood. [as a side note, you cannot be a practicing Jew nor Christian and follow this commandment, and be gay. also mentioned by my Jewish friend. seems logical to me. if this is the first commandment, you cannot be both asexual and not multiply and yet call yourself a Jew or Christian.]
So we’ve established that God wanted man to have children, and thereby have sex, procreate. But, let’s keep reading to the very next chapter where he describes man and woman getting together.
18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. 19 And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof. 20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was n ot found an help meet for him. 21 And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; 22 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
A couple of key points I want to mention. Notice I didn’t just include only the 24th verse. The preceding verses lead us into why Eve was created. Plain and simple, she was created for Adam. Woman was created for man. All the feminists are probably hissing at that, but then, they probably aren’t good Christians anyway so… anyway. But, see also that the story isn’t just one sided. Normally the ones that hiss the loudest have a problem reading. Not only was Eve created for Adam, God establishes that Adam will cleave to her, as all men should to their wives, and visa versa.
But wait there’s more! Notice also that man is to leave his father and mother. Is God singling out mom and dad? Yes and no. He’s singling them out because they are, or should be, the most important relationship you should have with another human. Once a man, therefore, finds a woman he is supposed to cease being a child, a servant etc, whatever the relationship is with a child and parent, and become the husband and head of his own house. This is also a double meaning that he should leave off all other relationships and be changed by marriage.
But wait, there’s more. Not only is there leaving and cleaving, but the two are to be one flesh. This is both real and metaphorical. Adam immediately recognizes that Eve came from him directly, flesh of his flesh. Therefore they were one flesh. But, also when the two, man and woman, find each other they are also supposed to become one flesh. No other relationship on the face of the earth is to be equal to the one you have with your spouse – not child; not parents; not friends. You two are supposed to end and begin with each other. Whatever need you might want from another human, you are to find in your spouse. You can’t cling to your daughter for companionship. You can’t cling to your father for safety. You can’t cling to your brother for financial security. These are all recipes for disaster in a marriage. This is something you should ask yourself before you get married to someone, “does she complete me?”
What is Adultery?
Quite simply, adultery is fornicating with someone that is: not married to you; married to someone else; not your spouse. In the old Hebrew context, adultery was a very small definition: sex between a married woman and someone not her husband. But, that cannot possibly be the extent of the definition. The difference is between the Hebrew average person’s understanding versus the biblical prohibition.
I’m sure some of you are shocked that I included “someone that is not married to you” as being adultery. Do I mean two single people having sex are committing adultery? BINGO! And, this is the entire point of the article. Everyone talks about premarital sex, but no one understands it to my satisfaction. Why is premarital sex wrong? It is the same reason the old Hebrews understood why “thou shalt not commit adultery” meant not having sex with a married woman, because the possible children would not have a lineage. Oh yeah, today we feel that everyone has a lineage, but that is as ignorant as saying everyone has good manners. Having illegitimate children, born out of wedlock, to people that never get married, is not only shameful and hurtful to the child, but a sin.
Let’s see why single people having sex could be committing adultery.
What if Time Were not Linear?
Understand something, God talks in a spiritual sense always. He never was physical and he never intended his teachings to only apply to the physical world. We were always to be redeemed spiritually.
Having sex is a spiritual experience. The best sex is between a loving husband and wife. God always intended sex to be pleasurable, so that his first commandment could be fulfilled, be fruitful and multiply.
However, God doesn’t exist in the limitation of time. Today, yesterday and tomorrow have virtually no meaning in the spiritual realms. Just because you are not married today does not mean you will never be married. Just because you are married today, does not mean you will always be married. If time is pointless then, having sex with someone who will never be your husband / wife, but who will marry someone else means you are committing adultery.
If you notice, a lot of the prohibitions in the bible just make excellent sense. If you followed the bible, and not weird people telling you extra stuff, not found anywhere in the bible, your life would be very simple and virtually stress free.
What do I mean? Imagine you did have sex with someone, and they had a child, or you had a child. You two do not get married. You now have this estranged relationship that lasts nearly all of your life. And, for what? Chasing after something that did not mean anything to begin with.
Had you followed my definition of adultery, you’d save yourself, the other person and the poor kid a lot of headache and misery. In fact, the bible seems nearly completely silent on sex between husband and wife. In fact, from the beginning you get the thumbs up from God, himself.
What About Divorce?
Ah, here’s another sticky subject. If two single people cannot have sex, what is a divorce supposed to do? If you’ve been following thus far, you know I am going to say, they would be committing sin. Yes, divorced people are committing sin if they have sex with someone else. Oh don’t give me that long face, divorce was always frowned on in the bible. It was virtually unheard of, but when spoken of, it was always prohibited.
Let’s apply my test to divorce. A couple of points to make about divorce and fornication:
– you might argue that a divorced person maybe should not have been married to the first person and that the second person is their true intended spouse. While I applaud your zeal in defending the sinful person, let me point out at the beginning, my speech on asking yourself “does she complete me.”
– a divorced person having sex with someone they are not currently married to is causing someone else to sin. God forbid they should have a child by that person. Again with the stressed out life. Oy Vey! Oy Gvald!
Notice I never mention diseases? Frankly, that is a minor worry. Yes you could die from a disease, but then the story is over. But to live with your sin for the rest of, not only your life, but the child’s life and any offspring that child might have is devastating.
That’s all Well and Good, but No-one Marries for Life Any More
Keep telling yourself that lie. There are people all day, every day and will always be getting married for life. There are millions of Americans who have been married longer than 60% of the entire population’s lifespan. Let me repeat that. There are people in America who have been married longer than some people have been alive.
But, let me clue you into something. Business hates these people. The media bombards you with false claims that divorce outweighs marriage. The media bombards you with sex sex sex all the time. The media would have you believe that being gay is ok, having premarital sex is the norm and that being a church going Christian is so in the past. They are all lies. The majority of marriages last. Being gay is not conducive to being a practicing Jew nor Christian. The majority of the country is still Christian. And, God blessem, all the illegal immigrants are all practicing Catholics, so Christianity is not going to disappear any time soon.
I’m sure you’re wondering how could I possibly conclude this lesson. I actually think it is simple. We are led to believe these days that in order to get married:
- you have to be in love with the person
- you have to live with the person and see if you get along
- you have get to know the person
- you have to be a traditionalist, because no modern man/woman needs to get married any more
- marriage is just a formality that is made by the government with a document
It amazes me how Christian beliefs are insulted by the media constantly. They would try and make it look like either marriage is stupid to begin with or that people that want to get married are dumb and therefore irrelevant.
How many movies have you seen in the past 3 years that has had the theme be “there is no such thing as love anymore so why get married.” You ever question where these themes come from?
Imagine for a second that you’re an actuary and a company asks you to come to their offices. They ask you to show them the difference between married people and single people. You go over all of your data and show that married people are:
- more stable
- more trustworthy
- less accident prone
- more thoughtful about everything they do
- more thoughtful about everything they buy
- have a higher tendency to keep records of themselves or transactions
and the list goes on.
Now imagine what that company would think. Wouldn’t they want to get around those people? Wouldn’t they want to lessen those people? Wouldn’t they want to try and downplay those people? But, they couldn’t avoid those people because they are the largest segment of the population. Every news report of divorce going up would be applauded. Every movie that downplayed marriage would be cheered on. Every dumb wannabe intellectual college kid preaching the end of marriage would be secretly worshiped.
The truth of the matter is, because the way God made us, put us together for some time and anyone can get along, anyone can fall in love with each other, anyone can form a loving relationship, anyone can, with slight instruction, raise children.
Marriage was not made by governments. It was never even considered a legal thing until very modern times. Even then, it was a simple recognition of a religious ceremony that nearly everyone in the population did. It was literally a right of passage: get pubic hair; get a deeper voice; get married.
Marriage does not have all these hangups that people put on them. There have been “simple” people marrying each other for thousands of years. They never had to “work on their marriage”. They never needed marriage counseling. They never needed a talk show host guiding them to blissful marriage. Even the fairytales end at the beginning of marriage: and they lived happily ever after. Why? Because once you got married it would abnormal for you to get a divorce. Unthinkable!
People today get married with one foot out the door. Why are you getting married? What is the complication? Literally, your mom or dad could see a nice girl for you, who comes from good parents and you could marry her. It is just that simple. You don’t need a psychology degree to be married. And, if you think you do, you’re paying attention to the media. Stop it.
So stop the sinning. Get married as soon as you find a suitable match from the same background. Make sure the two of you are headed in the same direction. Make sure she does not have one foot out the door. Have all the sex you want with her. Have all the kids you want with her. And, when you find a nice girl your son could and should marry, tell him to marry her. And so on. And so on.